The willingness to learn has become one of the most important leadership skills in the VUCA world. And one of the most important areas of development for a leader of our time is getting to know yourself better and developing self-awareness. This, in turn, requires a certain depth of thinking from the leader, even the ability to think about thinking.
That is why today's episode of self-coaching is dedicated to leaders with a depth of thinking. This is definitely a higher level of self-coaching ability.
Self-coaching for leaders with a depth of thought
One of the simplest methods of developing greater self-awareness is to allocate time regularly to revisit recent experiences and seek insights from them. A simple structure for this is the quartet of questions:
How do I feel about the way that I think?
How do I feel about the way that I feel?
How do I think about the way that I feel?
How do I think about the way that I think?
You can ask these in any order and typically you will find that insight from one perspective will lead you to another. When thinking about how you think, for example, you may recognize that the assumptions you make in assessing a situation are influenced by values that aren’t immediately obvious.
When you think about how you feel, you may realize that you can choose the emotions you connect with an event. When you feel about how you feel, you may recognize that being sad about a loss can make you appreciate the memories more fully. When you feel about how you think, you may learn that your subconscious thoughts are at odds with the person you aspire to be.
Regularly reflecting in this way is an important component in becoming wiser, more self-compassionate, and more accepting of others.
For leaders trying to cope with increasing complexity and uncertainty, it is an essential skill.
For coaches, who aspire to help leaders become wiser, it is even more essential!