One of the most important keys to our fulfillment is the ability to focus our attention on what we WANT. This, in turn, requires clarity about your own goals, plans and intentions. As well as transparency in the definition of the boundaries we do not agree to cross.
I believe that we create our life, that we are the "blacksmith of our own happiness" and, most importantly, that we are responsible for our life.
No one else.
If we can consciously assume this responsibility (which also means responsibility for any "unpleasant" things we have experienced in the past), then we are on the right path to finding our only unique path in this world and ultimately achieving a sense of personal fulfillment.
To what extent do you feel the owner of your life, and to what extent do you have the impression that you are drifting or torn by the uncertainty and changeability of the reality that surrounds you?