Where are you hiding your personal shadow? – ep. 2


Where are you hiding your personal shadow-ep-2-Empowerment Coaching Krakow Blog

In the previous episode, I highlighted one extremely important point: if you are not aware of something, you cannot decide about it ... If you are not aware of your shadow, you have no control over your emotional response - you are just reacting. You also don't control how you express your emotions. In addition, you unconsciously attract an unstoppable stream of people who externalize your abandoned shadow.


How to turn negative emotions into something positive

When you become aware of your shadow and become its owner again, you begin to have control over it. You move from being him to having him.


When I became aware of my abandoned anger, the upset people ceased to significantly influence me. I also stopped attracting them to myself. I still notice them, but instead of being influenced by them, I feel compassion for them.


It doesn't mean that I like being in their company. It also doesn't mean that I don't notice the damage they sometimes do around me and that I wouldn't react by seeing a person who is not in control of their anger that hurts others.


The difference is in my own emotional state. Angry people do not push me into negative emotions because I have become the owner of my own anger again.


I also stopped expressing my anger in a hidden, dysfunctional way. The anger that was once a huge problem in my life has just become another normal aspect of my life as a human being. I still experience it, but it no longer rules me.


Another element that I want to point out is that all qualities are integral features of all people. However, when you become the owner of your shadow again, what seemed negative matures and transforms into something positive.


Immature, reactive anger turns into a reluctance to tolerate injustice. Narcissistic selfishness matures into true self-love. Each shadow has its mature form and retrieving it allows you to externalize that quality in a mature, positive way.


Our life is a constant game of White and Black

Now that we are familiar with the concept of shadows, I would like to introduce you to the arcana of the game that we teach every new member of our society. I call this game the Game of Black and White, and its guiding principle is that White Always Wins. This game is actually about shadows - so let's take a closer look at it.


To play this game, a person must first learn to divide everything in this world into separate parts and events. We assimilate this knowledge so effectively that, once we learn it, the question never comes to mind: do these things really exist separately or only in our minds?


Your common sense probably tells you that it is obvious that the world is full of separate things and events. You just have to look around.

But let's look at it carefully. It has to do with the Black and White Game, as well as your sense of happiness and inner peace.


At some point in your childhood, your parents started teaching you the names of certain things in this world. This primarily made you discover the existence of such a thing as a "thing" and learn that a thing and its name are the same. However, let us see that this approach is not a correct view of the world - useful in many cases, but not precise - and see if it lead